INDEPENDENCE IS WHAT I LEARNT TILL NOW……

Independence is what I have learnt to stay till now…

Ever since when I was a little girl….I am always left alone no matter whatever might be the situation it is…..I often ask myself “ Why am I left alone or Does anyone care about me or not”?????I got no one to ask anything when I need them so much except my parents. But thinking deeply independence is something which everyone must learn and know how to stand on your own feet …I enjoy being in my own world….where no one bothers about you…

 You should never depend on anyone to do anything for you because it just won't work. Get your life and careers together. Take care of your finances and set aside for a five year plan for yourself because nothing is ever really promised to you. 
The worst thing ever in life about certain people is the one's that watch things happen and the one's who make it happen for themselves. 
Now the one's who sit back and watch other people succeed are the one's who are out there feeling sorry for themselves and are the one's who never create change.. 

Remember: those days are over as far as being a housewife where the man will give you an allowance by keeping you inside and not letting you do anything because you're not independent. 

It's really about respect for oneself because if you really look at it, if you have your own and can stand your ground then no one can't really disrespect you or tell you things like, if it wasn't for me then you wouldn't have this.
Don't you hate that? Well, if you do, then that means that if you have your own and never ask for anything then they can't fix their lips to say those things and that's how you maintain your respect. 
Although, Independence is a great thing and has it's advantages because when you're independent you basically set your own rules and calling all shots without anyone trying to tell you what to do because you can basically take care of yourself. Independence is great to a point where a woman is so independent and can take care of herself. One of my friend told me that it's nice to be needed sometimes but that's not all there is so what are you actually bringing to the table?


The point I'm trying to make here is never forget where you came from. It's good to be independent, but sometimes you'll need a strong individual on the same level as you to back you up and stand behind you 100% and keep pushing you to remain independent. .When it comes to being an independent woman: Will you let anyone stand in your way of your independence or will you just let someone come in between of what you've got going for yourself which is your own independence and respect!

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Love and Mutual Understanding

Russian woman love story about meeting American husband

By Olga Wright

I would like to tell you about our family and how we found each other. We started to look for another half at the same time. I applied at the international marriage agency and my profile was posted on the Internet a short time later. Within the next couple weeks, I got about 30 letters from various men. Some of them were well written but had no picture attached. For me it was hard to reply to that kind of letters without having looked into someone's eyes. Communication, as I regard it, is something I would like to tell specifically to a particular person. Thus, having no idea how one looks like, I do not really know what to tell him. It was the reason I did not want to bother communicating with paper sheets. Once I saw HIS picture, something inside me whispered, "This man is the one and I want to be with him". Our correspondence started this way and for me it was so easy communicating with him!

I would write him what attracts me in our relations: first, we could exchange our pictures, then, get to know each other through the correspondence and, finally, touchingly anticipate our first date. I printed out his pictures. One of them I would always carry around with me, the other one I put on the foreground at home. I merely lived in a dream of happy family. My people did not really understand me and for sure, they did not believe any of my "ravings". The agency that helped my correspondence kept getting letters from other men responding to my profile. I was advised to be in a correspondence with a few of them and then chose the right one but I told them that I had already found one. I guess, I am a rare lucky person to have found my "half" through the Internet so fast: many women are spending years exchanging e-mails.

After 4.5 months of the correspondence, he finally came to see me. He was flying in the next morning and he called me from Moscow the evening before that to tell that he was getting closer to me. His voice was so happy! Through our correspondence, we had already become very close but yet we had not seen each other in real life. It finally happened, and he looked exactly the way I imagined him. We spent 10 days together, not parting with each other for a single moment. We strolled through the town, went to the theater, and met my family and friends.

I remember us traveling with my friends to see a cloister in the old Russian village. He was amazed by beautiful wooden Russian houses, water from a pump and an abacus in a local grocery store. Time flew by and our happy time was nearly over. My husband tells me now, it was the happiest time in his entire life; he cannot explain why for what it makes sense only for two of us, experienced deep feelings for each other. When leaving, he took my papers for fiancee visa application.

We thought we would see each other again in 3-5 months but, because of various force-majeure circumstances, it became possible only 19 months later, when I finally got my visa. Up to that time, my little daughter Natalya would tell everyone that her Dad lives in America and soon she is going to join him there. She loved scrutinizing our pictures together and showing them to the guests. When we finally made it to America, my daughter was 3.5 years old. At first, we felt ourselves very much out of place and she was begging me to go back but I knew we are on a one-way road to our cherished dream. Quite soon, everything fell into place: Tracy easily found a common language with Natalya, we got married and become this happiest family where reigns love and mutual understanding.

Well I also wish my STORIES could be solved with such kind of Mutual Understandings in between two of us. Its not once or twice happening in my life but it keeps on repeating the same kind of story. As saying...'' We neva get things the way we wanted in reality but instead leaves us in our own fantasy world. lets not hope for things we dun deserve it. Be positive, think positive ,,,,and God will do the rest....hahah